Posts tagged codependence
Parenting Fail: Forest Fires, Tremors, and Our Families of Origin

It's hard to take a sober look at our families of origin. We don't want to judge the folks who brought us into this world. The journey toward wholeheartedness is really less about assigning blame and more about getting our story straight so that we can move forward toward recovering the inner child who holds the key to unlocking our vitality as well as our ability to parent in ways that will honor our own children.

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Living with Toxicity: Issues in Parenting

I can think of no better time than now for parents to take responsibility for their own inner journeys. An inability to do so runs the risk of parents not being able to set their children free to be children so that they can follow their soul's firm persuasion without needing to take care of the unconscious needs of their caregivers. The potential repercussions could be more profound than we realize.

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Living with Toxicity: Lies & Trauma Bonding

At this point, in addition to the fact that each new crisis or diplomatic flash point serves to distract from the reality of his behavior, the president's obsession with shifting the conversation to the next shiny object has the effect of causing the American public to anticipate—in an almost Pavlovian fashion—his next idiocratic move. In a sick way, it is as if we need him. And we will put up with increasingly bizarre behaviors as long as he can do something that passes for normal every once in a while. Such is the tragic way that trauma bonding keeps victim and abuser tethered to one another.

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Living with Toxicity: An Introduction

At least for this season of our political circus, the world has a front row seat to one way narcissism shows up in relationships. Never before has there been such unfettered access to a world that has largely existed behind the scenes and on the periphery, usually reserved for therapists' offices or personal journals.

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Independence Day

It is July 4th. Many of us are with friends and family engaging in rituals and traditions born of an era steeped in national pride. To be clear, there have been times when this time of year has called forth true feelings of gratitude about our collective embodiment of values that feel aspirational and true to who we are at our deepest core. This is not that time.

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